I'm trying to figure out how much ram / disk I need, or how much I need to tip the self-hosters who let me on, because I just found out 3 years after the fact that the instance I moved to is blocking at least 9 instances for a single word reason: Pediverse... as-if that tells me anything useful other than siding with antis... aaa

[ my friend's birthday today and her current instance is one I can't join, and apparently the fedi instance I'm on is also unsafe but I didn't know it because I don't use my fediverse stuff at all ] ~ how do I find an instance or pay to be ... aaa

sorry.

I'm kinda having a bad time realizing dozens of queers from years ago are hanging out pretending like I don't exist still on the other side of the antis VS pediverse firewall I didn't know existed because nobody told me this whole time, including the furry who runs the instance I came from in the first place