I'm a reddit refugee since its API protests.

Was recommended burggit.moe (back then just launched as a lemmy instance) as a replacement. Its lax ruleset wasn't compatible with the power tripping associated with the reddit moderation willing to part with reddit at the time, so it got immediately defederated by basically all other lemmy instances.

The only exception was rqd2.net, who found themselves in the exact same circumstances and thus had basically nowhere else to federate with. This lasted for several months until a series of extended server outages dropped burggit's userbase below criticality, by which point burggit's administration decided to recreate it as a sharkey instance.

The rqd2 user overlap made the sharkey instance federate with pedi initially, which burggit's staff saw as a threat to long-term federation. initially they've removed users openly displaying affiliation with pedophilia, then went on over time to defederate instances doing the same, and progressed to instances associating with instances doing the same. This, along with artist migration surges from aethy's "shutdown" and baraag's downtime, resulted into burggit turning into a completely different instance than what it started as. I don't mind the state it's currently in or its admin's decisions, but i did miss the interaction with pedi.

I think the trigger that made me join the pedi proper was cunny.beauty getting defederated, as unlike other pedi instances i hadn't seen any posts federated from them warranting defederation under burggit's "this is not a pedi instance" policy. Some time later, i was given an answer on it happening "because there was obvious underage users soliciting on that instance", but by then i had already moved.

My first instance was gimmeloli.top, as other sharkey pedi instances active at the time (cunnyfu, baise-moi) had been defederated simultaneously earlier on.